Do you at times feel empty, down or low on energy?
Any energy thieves in your area, at work or where you live?
If the answer is yes, these handy tips might help.
1. Go with love.
2. It is rarely one person’s fault. And even if it is. Blaming leads nowhere.
3. Don’t try and change people. Instead see things for what they are and go from there. If you think people will change the only frustrated person in the equation will be you. Don’t do that to yourself. You are worth so much better.
4. Boundaries. Oh it is so easy to go all in and give, give, give. Helping others until you drown. Especially if you are one of these “helpers” in the world who can’t help but helping. To the extent that you go extinct. Don’t go there. Set boundaries. Go within and ask yourself. Can I do this? Will it truly help the other person. But most importantly – will it nourish me? The universe is sending people into our lives to test us. But remember: you are not a victim, nobody has power over you.
5. Don’t feed the dwellers. People love to dwell and dwellers love a listener. When you pay attention to somebody else, you are giving them energy. You are feeding them. Do you sometimes end a conversation with a friend feeling completely exhausted? I used to have a “friend” like that and at the end of each conversation she always said “oh thank you Pernilla I feel so much better now”. And there I was – absolutely drained. Listen, give advice, but kindly excuse yourself after a while and say “I have to go but I will send you healing energy”. That way you stay balanced.
6. Adapt! Yes, but if you are dealing with energysuckers you need to be careful with this one. Adapt to a certain extent. Listen to what resonates with your goals and dreams. Be flexible. Show the world you’re a bigger person who doesn’t let nitty gritty little things bug you. But adapt at your phase. Adapt with love, respect and within your boundaries.
7. Do stuff that fills you up. Watch comedies, read uplifting affirmations, yoga, go for a run, get a massage, play your instrument, play football, take in healing energies from nature. Nurture yourself more than you usually do. You need it and man are you worth it.
8. Responsibility! As you know, you are responsible for your actions and words. But you are also responsible for your own wellbeing. You can’t blame someone else. No matter how difficult and evil the other person is. The way you respond and react to him or her is your responsibility. Equally important. You are not responsible for other people (well accept your kids that is). Other people must set their own boundaries and take care of themselves. The other person must also listen, adapt, fill up with energy and take care of their own laundry. It is not your job!
9. If all else fails. Withdraw. Withdraw for as long as you need and as often as you need. It is ok. If you need space – embrace it. It is yours to have. You need to survive. Breathe, be and relax until you are ready to face the world again.