Then the next speaker came up on stage and asked us a new question: How many of you answered "the office". The whole audience went quiet.
No one laughed.
We all kind of sat there, staring, wondering what the heck we were doing with our lives.
Why is it, that so many of us, spend so many hours every day, in a place we don't even wish to be in? And quite often we spend it with people we don't want to be with. If you were asked who you most want to spend time with? Would you answer: my office colleagues.
I don't think so. I wouldn't. Don't get me wroing. I like my colleagues. They are fantastic, but if I truly had the choice I would perhaps not choose to be with them 8-5-365. Instead I would mostly hang out with my kids, my family, my friends. And I wouold hang out in places where I would meet new people. People of my choice. People who would surprise me and bring me new insights. I would make sure I met people from all over the world.
I would also take on new things. i would at the moment try and spend lots of time learning how to surf. Because I love learning new things.
I would perhaps also choose not to do anything.
I recently came back from a week in Fuerteventura where I had the privilege to hang out with surf people. If I may generalize a bit, surf people have this amazing outlook on life. The most important thing seems to be to catch the next wave. They make sure they get to travel to places where the surf is good and where they can get by doing what they love. They also have this relaxed outlook on life where it is not so much about sitting in meetings and being important. It's more about enjoying the now.
Ok you say, so what do I do if I have a family and a welll cemented lifestyle? I can't just up and leave!?
No of course not, well actually you can, but let me give you a few tips in case you can't see that yet.
- Want to make changes. It all starts with awareness. If you are aware of your current situation and the fact that it is not optimal for you. That is a very good start. Go from living in the dark to living aware of that you want something else. This is a huge step. Congratulations if you've reached it!
- Write a bucket list. Put down all your wishes and dreams in a book or in notes in your cell. Big and small. It can be anything from going for a walk on the beach to line dancing to travelling to Jamaica. Bucket lists work in two ways: it makes it clear to you what you really want, so that you can start taking action on it and make dreams come true. It also sends out a message into the universe so that you can get help from all the energies floating around out there.
- Remind yourself. Choose 3 wishes at a time and put them somewhere where you can see them every day. Remind yourself and act as if these wishes already have come true. That gives even more power to them coming to life.
- Plan a trip but don't take one. According a recent survey, it seems that planning a vacation or just a break from work can improve our happiness and the happiness lasted for eight weeks.
- Have fun. Even if all of us can't take off and live as surf dudes (well we can, but it is so hard to believe that it's too painful to take in) we can do little things in life to have fun every day. Find out what makes you laugh and make sure you get to laugh - a lot - every day.
And if you still think you should stay in your office for the rest of your life get inspired by this!
Happy New Life!